no answers

Rationalism and doctrinairism are the disease of our time;
they pretend to have all the answers.


Carl Jung
Memories, Dreams, Reflections

WHY?

Many thousands of people have no real help in times of crisis, no one who is willing to talk with them and share the pain, frustration, rage and anguish in a healthy way. There are hundreds of thousands of people who have been given and are still given Valium as a substitute for human care, for the externalization of emotional pain, and who are left NEITHER DYING NOR LIVING.

And so we have to ask ourselves why we have become so callous, so uncaring, so unwilling to take some time out of our busy schedules to help those in need to solve and deal with problems when they happen. Instead, they are given drugs to cloud their consciousness, to sedate their emotions, to prevent them from living fully so they can leave their pain behind and experience life once again with all its beauty, all its challenges; yes, with all its pains and its gifts.

WHY?


On Children and Death
Elisabeth Kubler-Ross

I went to the woods
because I wished to live deliberately,
to front only the essential facts of life and
see if I could not learn what it had to teach
and not,
when I came to die,
discover that I had not lived.


Henry David Thoreau

The 5 things:

1. Recognizing that life is at times unfair and unjust.
2. Recognizing that ultimately there is no escape from some of life’s pain and from death.
3. Recognizing that no matter how close I get to other people, I must still face life alone.
4. Facing the basic issues of my life and death, and thus living my life more honestly and being less caught up in trivialities.
5. Learning that I must take ultimate responsibility for the way I live my life no matter how much guidance and support I get from others.


Existential Psychotherapy
Irwin Yalom

loss of spirit

"We exacerbate our suffering needlessly when we allow one loss to lead to another. That causes gradual destruction of the soul. This destruction of the soul represents the "second death", and it can be a worse tragedy than the first. The death that comes through the loss of spouse, children, parents, health, job , marriage, childhood or any other kind is not the worst kind of death there is. Worse still is the death of the spirit, the death that comes through guilt, regret, bitterness, hatred, immorality and despair. The first kind of death happens TO us; the second kind of death happens IN us. It is a death we bring upon ourselves if we refuse to be transformed by the first death."


A Grace Disguised: How the soul grows through loss
Gerald Sittser

healing evolves

healing evolves,
it is not a destination.


Dr Jane Talbot

where strength lies

That which does not kill me
makes me stronger.


Nietzsche

free of me

Going within me,
I am finally free of me:
and that is a timeless liberation
from the fetters of being me.


Ken Wilbur